having feelings that contradict your morals is soooo fucking annnoooooyyyiiingggggg. can the emotions and logic department get on the same page im tired of having to like strangle myself into being a tolerable person
every day I have to make decisions
Yeah! Upon closer inspection the one in the video is a normal barbie they made an outfit for, but there's an actually official The Birds barbie
italian sub said he wanted no limits masochism so hes leashed to his crate wailing while i break spaghetti noodles in half infront of him
Okay well my Italian sub is in the fridge so
At one point I had a housemate who had been through multiple abusive or at least unhealthy relationships, and it effected the way they interacted with the world and others around them.
One of the effects was that they couldn't admit to mistakes or accidents. They would lie when they could, and they'd try to cover it up when they could.
One day, they broke one of my glass dishes in the kitchen. I wasn't at home at the time, so they cleaned up in a hurry and then hurriedly scrambled to glue it back together. They never said anything to me, and I wouldn't have ever noticed-
Except I walk barefoot in my home and two steps into the kitchen I had a small shard of glass in my foot. Looking for a source, I noticed the dish in the drain, and looked a lot more closely at it than I normally would have, and noticed a small piece missing from where they had glued two larger pieces together.
It took me a good twenty minutes to fish that glass out of my foot. I then went and vacuumed very throughly, as two dogs and a cat lived in that house, along with the humans.
If they hadn't been stuck in the patterns they learned when they were younger, they might have told me about the glass, and I could have worn shoes until it was safe. They might have spent longer cleaning it up and making sure the floor was safe, instead of trying to cover up their mistake by gluing the dish back together.
If they could have broken out of those patterns, they would not have put those around them in harm's way.
Break out of your unhealthy patterns. They're hurting you, and they're hurting the people around you. If someone over reacts to something like a broken bowl, the answer is to remove them from your life, not to go around gluing bowls back together without saying anything.
I forgot to say it, but this is both metaphorical and literal. It was a very real shard of glass in my foot AND a lot of us pick up unhealthy coping mechanisms and then go on to unintentionally hurt others. So please, please, work on identifying behaviors and thoughts that end up hurting you and those around you.
Because sometimes it's not just a shard of glass. Sometimes it's a lot bigger and more harmful.
girlfriend keeps a kyubey plushie just to beat up when she's angry so sometimes i'm running down the list of questions to ask to help her figure out what would make her feel better and "do you want to hurt kyubey" is often one of them
[one single bloodcurdling agonized scream] ok time to lock in
happy indigenous peoples day, consider donating to Adopt An Elder to help Navajo Nation elders make it through winter with supplies this year or posting about MMIWG2S to raise awareness for the epidemic of violence against native women, girls, and 2spirit across america and canada, and as always,
if i run to lord jackass he'll catch me~
ALTKeep going, there is no other option
Nothing like going to bed. Yay I get blanket time!
Nothing sadder than wake up time. What do you mean I need to leave the kingdom of warms?
[new to degrading someone] I can tell that due to adverse childhood experience you're uncomfortable exercising autonomy so as an adult you find comfort in a consensual relationship dynamic with a power imbalance of some sort that puts you in a vulnerable position
I should lock the fuck in *half an hour passes* I should lock the fuck in *half an hour passes* I should lock the fuck in *half an hour passes* I should-
